We asked on Facebook: What’s the best advice you could give new couples about enduring relationships and marriages?
Sense of humor.
You have to keep dating each other. Special time just for the two of you, be that it’s dinner, a movie, ice cream. Oh, and put the phone down, leave it in the car. That phone is and can be a third wheel that neither one of you wants to hang out with!
Pick your battles! If he really wants a tattoo of a topless mermaid, just go with the flow, you can use it as leverage later for that flamingo wallpaper you are drooling over! Compromise.
38, met 11/11/09, married since 11/11/11.
Sarah Moore Click
Each have their own bathroom.
Ask my grandparents! They have been married over 50 years and the way my grandfather looks at my grandmother would bring tears to your eyes, because it is so beautiful and loving.
Just celebrated # 48. Husband Allen Lockhart came up with the magic phrases — It is my fault. I am sorry. I won’t let it happen again! I know he is lying, but it calms me down immediately.
Thirty-five years married to my best friend this year. Advice: Remember you are ONE, you’re on the same team. Keep your differences private, never public. And keep dating always. This helps when the kids leave. Stay friends.
Just stay married! Deal with the big problems, let the little stuff go. Date when your kids are young, one day they will leave the nest and it will be just the two of you. 33 years!
Mandy McGuire Rider
Laura and I just celebrated 22 years in August. There is a lot to say, but I’ll simmer it down to a Jane Siberry lyric: “Life is a red wagon, rolling along, life is a red wagon, simple and strong, but when the feet are dragging, you pull for me and I’ll pull for you.”
Just reached a milestone of 50 years of marriage. Four daughters, four awesome sons-in-law and six grandchildren. My youngest daughter just married in October 2018. I’ve always told my girls: “Learn to pick your battles” Once you learn that, you’ll see all things work out for the good.
Forty-three years — Mark Koehler and Kay. Don’t let the bad times overrule the good ones. No marriage is perfect. Learn, forgive, love and live.
Kay Floyd Koehler
Thirty-four years and counting! Three years in May as legal. Communication — good, bad or indifferent. Talk it out!
Jennie S. Latham
Married life is a give-and-take proposition. After being married for over 50 years the secret is compromise on everything.
Respect each other, lean on each other during the good times and bad. Marriage requires work every single day.
Nikki Harper Ashcraft
Commitment, communication, and compromise! I have been married for 19 years, not all 19 years were fabulous, but I wouldn’t change a thing. Marriage is a lot of work. Both people have to be willing to work for it and be accepting.
Asheley Drake Salas
When you make a commitment to someone, it is forever. No matter how good the good times are, or how bad the bad times are, stick by your spouse’s side and be their support. Never stop having fun with one another — keep your life interesting and active. Show affection and compliment one another. Respect each other, your marriage and your family.
Learn to forgive each other! Keep a sense of humor at all times. (Married 34 years in February.)
Lauren Abbruzzesi Fuhrman
Find a way to communicate. My husband likes a white board that I can write down the things that need to get done or reminders.
My mama always says “Never go to bed angry.”
Kathryn Marie Zimmerman
Jeff Gottlieb and I will be celebrating 48 years in May. Always remember to laugh!
Agree up front divorce is never an option.
I’ve been with my husband 40 years, 36 years married. There have been times that although we love each other very much, we didn’t think we liked each other. So, we started making lists of the things that we liked and admired about each other and sharing it. It reminds us in tough times what the core strengths of our marriage are all about. Our lists change as our lives change, but we both have each other’s list to look at from time to time. It just reminds us of how blessed we are to be together.
Be kind to each other.
Couples that pray together, stay together.
Thirty-eight years of marriage have taught me that love is not a romance novel plot line. It is a decision you make. Every. Single. Day. Too many people throw in the towel when things start getting tough. Life has peaks and valleys. Make a decision to ride them together.